What is Grief?

Grief is a natural response to loss. It can be caused by the death of a loved one, but also by other losses, such as the end of a relationship, a job loss, or a serious illness. Grief is a complex emotion that can manifest in many different ways, including sadness, anger, guilt, loneliness, and despair. It can also cause physical symptoms, such as fatigue, difficulty sleeping, and changes in appetite.

There is no one right way to grieve. Everyone experiences grief differently, and there is no set timetable for healing. Some people may find that they are able to move through the grieving process relatively quickly, while others may need more time. It is important to be patient with yourself and to allow yourself to feel whatever emotions are coming up for you.


This is a natural way to cope with the overwhelming pain of loss. People in denial may refuse to accept that the loss has happened or may try to convince themselves that it is not real.


Once the reality of the loss has set in, people may experience anger. This anger can be directed at the person who died, at themselves, or at the world in general.


In this stage, people may try to make deals with God or with themselves in an attempt to bring their loved one back or to change the past.


This is a period of sadness, despair, and emptiness. People in depression may withdraw from social activities and lose interest in things they used to enjoy.


This is the final stage of grief. It does not mean that people forget their loved one or that they no longer feel sadness. Rather, it means that they have come to accept the loss and are able to move on with their lives.

There are a number of things you can do to cope with grief, including:

  • Talking to someone you trust about how you are feeling.
  • Joining a support group for people who are grieving.
  • Engaging in activities that you enjoy.
  • Taking care of your physical health by eating healthy foods, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly.

The loss of a loved one can be devastating. At BNJ Holistic Counselling, we can help you through your grief.